SHE WILL WANT TO HAVE A BABY SOONER OR LATER

LIFE'S PRIMARY PROBLEM IS TO COMBINE LOVE AND SEX

THERE IS SUCH A THING AS BEING IN LOVE

YOU CAN LOVE AN OTHER ONLY AS MUCH AS THE OTHER LOVES YOU

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"The human male is, on most measures, more vulnerable than the female (Sebastian Kraemer, research psychiatrist)."  

"Men are slime Jerry (female guest on The Jerry Springer Show )."

Latest study of relationship says friends of the female couple member were particularly successful at predicting relationship failure source. 

1. There are many different kinds of love: friendship, marriage, romance, children and parents, a lingering from long ago, transcendental or religious love, love of humanity, and possibly other kinds.

2a. The truth is at the heart of love.

2b. The truth will always win out. If there is an untruth in a relationship, it will eventually cause pain, even after many years.

2c.  When you first 'date' an other, think only of how you actually feel  when you are with the other. Do not think about "things about" the other.

3a.  There IS such a thing as being in love.

3b. There is a big difference between loving and being IN love, between true love and true in-love. "Their souls kissed, they kissed with their eyes, they were both but one single kiss (Heinrich Heine)."

3c. If you're not sure you're in love, then you're not.

3d. In true in-love, likely you will want to be with the other nearly all of the time. Little things will mean a lot, big things will mean little.

3e. If you are truly in love, there is no desire for any other. Monogamy will require no will power.

3f. True in-love is not blind or mistaken. You see the other's imperfections, but they just don't matter. True love is actually quite wise in its total forgiveness and unconditionality. 

3g. True in-love completes the person. Some feel as if there was always something missing in themselves before they were in love.

3h. True in-love causes one to be a more evolved person. You are more a man in the true sense, not in the media image.

4a. One cannot choose to be in love. Only a larger-than-life force can cause one to fall in love.

4b. Do not blame an other for not loving you, or for not falling in love with you. It is not their fault. Love comes from a force outside the self.

4c. Do not do good things to try to get an other to fall in love with you. No matter how many fine qualities you have or good things you do, the other must fall in love because of a force larger than life. Do good for its own sake.

4d. Do not try to change or expect things of an other so that you can finally fall in love. Perhaps the other should indeed do the things you want, but that will not cause you to fall in love.

4e. You can love another only as much as the other loves you.

5a. One cannot choose the particular person one falls in love with. A force larger than life decides that. If you can choose, then you are not in love.

5b. Do not let an other choose you. The other must fall in love too, and that is not a matter of choice.

5c. Do not make major decisions such as living together, or having a child, assuming that you'll eventually fall in love with the other. This may happen, but it may not. The result will be emotional pain down the road if choices are made instead of waiting for Destiny. The longer the relationship the worse the pain of breakup. The truth at the heart of love is painfully honest.

5d.  It doesn't really matter what the other looks like. The other's looks, income, personality, attitudes, etc., are a matter of the randomness of Destiny's Dice. It is possible to fall in love with a person who is nothing like the persons you usually find attractive. It is even possible to fall in love with a person you do not like very much. It is not the other's qualities that cause you to fall in love.

5e. You risk falling in love with your best friend. That's fine if your best friend falls in love with you. But often this doesn't happen. Even soul mates often don't fall in love with each other.

6a. You are not truly in love with an other until the other is in love with you. Love is nurtured by receiving love.

6b. Types of Pre-In-Love Relationship:

Neither Love

One Loves 

Both Love 

One is in Love

6c. True in-love can happen in any of these types.

6d. The probability of falling in love is no greater in any type. Both can fall in love when neither love each other, and just because one is in love doesn't increase the likelihood of the other falling in love.

6e. Infatuation is a pre-in-love phase in which one is at true-love's door and has the first experiences of the intensity of being in love. In this state one is waiting for Destiny to cause the other to fall, or both are waiting for each her to fall.

6f. During the pre-in-love phase, a common mistake is that one makes choices, e.g., having a child, which assume that one is already in love when one is not yet so. The result will be emotional pain down the road if choices are made instead of waiting for Destiny. The longer the relationship the worse the pain of breakup. The truth at the heart of love is painfully honest.

6d. The heart and the mind often do not work well together before both persons fall in love. One's thoughts about love may or may not be correct because the heart will overpower logic and the truth. Conversely, the mind can be the enemy of love by injecting fear and misconception into a relationship. Telling the truth is the only medicine. "For all that ever I could read, could ever hear by tale or history, the course of true love did never run smooth (Shakespeare)."

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